Education depends mainly on controlling behavior and modifying acquired habits, especially on the full awareness of parents and all parties to ensure a sound education that contributes to building a normal child with an active personality in his community, regardless of his age. The child helps us very smoothly in adjusting his behavior.
There are many topics and ways that we can envisage to communicate any useful information or to inculcate any healthy behavior in our child.
For example, with really simple sentences, we can modify their behavior:
1. If you can't be nice, shut up.
It is a simple sentence to understand the child and teach him a simple concept which is “You have the right to feel any feeling.” You have the right to be angry or upset, but you do not have the right to harm others because you are.
2. I have my reasons:
This sentence is useful when your child showers you with questions about a decision they don't like, and no matter how logical you give them, you won't convince them. This answer redefines your authority in the family and shows them that you are the final decision-maker as an adult. But do not abuse it too much. Only when necessary.
3. And if you ask the other, what will he say?
This sentence is useful when the child complains about a conflict with his siblings or friends and makes him think about the situation from the other's point of view and try to convey the situation as honestly as possible and learn to empathize with the other party instead of completely blaming him.
4. Is what you're doing working?
This sentence is useful when the child gets stuck in a complaint about the same problem and is trying to solve it in the same way, as if he is complaining about a friend who takes his pens from him and he does not tell him not to do it.
This method teaches your child to try to find other solutions to the problem and not to get stuck in one type of behavior.
5. You put a great effort on this job:
When he shows you something he did, it is better to praise the effort he made rather than just the result (this drawing is very cool) because the effort is more important even if the drawing is not really great, his effort is commendable, and this teaches him to make effort in life regardless of the results, so he does not always feel disappointed .
“Excellent work” is your judgment while “Excellent effort” is his work and that is the difference.