Psychologists tell us “8 things” husbands should do to avoid getting divorced:
Divorce is very common nowadays, and it hurts to look at the statistics. However, everyone wants a happy marriage for years to come. We now put in your hands a list of tips from psychologists and people who have experiences on how to save a marriage
Respect each other.
Sometimes we may hear the wife say to her husband with the aim of disparaging him: “You are the son of a mama.. what can I expect from you?” ...a phrase like this indicates a lack of respect and this undermines the rules of any marriage.
Mutual respect is a cornerstone of a happy marriage. Even when you are angry, express yourself without disrespecting the other. Respect allows you to avoid situations in which the other partner feels you are being manipulated and pressured.
Do not compare your partner to others.
Don't compare your partner to other people's husbands and wives, especially not to someone on social networking sites like Instagram or Facebook. .
Remember that people on social media do not show their actual reality but rather the image we desire in life and relationships. Therefore, when you see men showering their wives with bouquets of roses, buying them expensive gifts, or going out with them to fancy restaurants, know that what you see may be artificial and fake... Even if they do that, this does not mean that they are happy husbands.
Keep fit, and take care of yourself.
Always take care of yourself.. A happy marriage is also linked to intimacy.. People love to see beauty and attractiveness.. So keep fit and healthy.. Think about the way you look when you are with your husband. “Yes” is great for him.. This rule also applies to men.
The husband is priority number one, then the children.
- Husband: "Let's take our kids to my family's house, so we can go out on our own?"
- Wife: I will not leave my children with anyone for one moment.
- This wife's priority is her children, so what about her husband?
Motherhood and fatherhood are centered on selflessness for the sake of our children but it is wrong to sacrifice your marriage for the sake of your children. First: If your children are all you need in your life, this is bad for your children in particular.. Second: the spouses are the pillar of the family.. Third: the children will grow up one day and leave the family.. At that time you will remain alone and you will find yourself on common ground and history..or You may find that there is nothing left of your marriage..The partner is now to you someone you are no longer fond of..Ask or ask yourself if this is what you want your marriage to reach..
Forgive each other.
no one is perfect. We all make mistakes. In any relationship, misunderstandings may occur.. If the spouses cannot forgive each other, then over time, the relationship will collapse under the burden of a feeling of accumulated injustice.
Don't try to change your partner.
A person makes mistakes when he thinks that he can change the other.. Everyone has his faults, and it is almost impossible to turn him into the person you want. Things you should never try to change are bad habits, religious views, relationships with parents, hobbies, the way a person views this world, and the priorities a person sets for themselves. But the good thing to do is to create mutual family customs and traditions that everyone will find enjoyable.
Avoid big words, especially the word "divorce."
Try to avoid statements like, "If this continues, I will leave you." Do not say the word "divorce". “If you're going to say it, get ready to go see a lawyer. Don't crawl back on your knees later and say, "I didn't mean that." Your partner may suddenly say, "Great, go."
Such phrases, often said in a state of anger, are unforgettable. No, but will increase the chances of actual divorce.
Learn the language of love when your partner.
Everyone speaks their own language about love. Your language may differ from your partner's love language. To express love, a person may show support and praise, or he may express it with a touch, a hug, or with material things such as gifts.
We all have our own love language. Whatever the partner's love language is, learn and use it