The three-year-old: his abilities and the most important tips and directions for dealing with him at this important stage
At the age of three, the child begins to test the world around him, his ability and the limits of his control, the laws of the world, the capabilities of others and the limits of their control. He wants in the best way he tried and it gave him a successful result.
During this period, there are very rapid developments in his thinking that are fascinated by parents, especially if he is their first child, so we must understand him well and must be good at dealing with these changes and developments.
The most important changes and developments that occur in a 3-year-old child:
1. Independence:
Your child is gradually starting to depend on himself and wants to do everything of his own, and also wants to imitate you and enjoy it, he wants to wash the plate like you, he wants to write like you, he wants to draw like you, and he is determined to do so. Here your role is to give him space and make room for him with love, because this is not stubbornness from him, he just discovers, grows and develops.
2. Curiosities and Questions:
Why ?? A question that will accompany you all the time, and every time you answer a question, it will ask more. Do not worry, do not dictate, and do not prevent it, because this is how you will stop the flow of knowledge and the exploration process. What you have to do is answer his inquiries as much as possible, and you can take advantage of the opportunity and offer him some books that contain many pictures with a lot of information in order to develop his brain skills.
3. Broad imagination:
Beware that you associate it with a lie and understand that you are lying to it. On the contrary, connect this imagination with reality and feed it with real information a lot. Imagination is the first way of creativity in your child.
4. He is afraid of many illogical things:
This is very normal, so accept it and it will decrease with time, because this is because of the wide imagination that a child of his age enjoys, and his choice in watching the appropriate and not scary cartoon for him.
5. Urgency and stubbornness:
Urgency and stubbornness is one of the characteristics of a 3-year-old child, and it begins little by little, a lot less with time. Do not always increase the refusal because this complicates matters, and follow the method of persuasion or be smart and occupy him with something else that will make him forget what he was stubborn for.
What should a 3-year-old learn?
It is very important, at this age, for a child to learn about: limits, rules, firmness, and consequences.
The child must know his limits, what is allowed and what is not.
And that fixed laws are established for what is allowed and what is forbidden. and establish consequences for non-compliance.
And implement this firmly and steadfastly, and not respond to any pressure exerted by the child to break those limits and rules because this means that he uses the same behaviors for many times to repeat breaking the rules and achieving his desires.
And because the world is not a place to carry out desires without calculation, it is our duty to teach the child that firmly, and bear the trouble of his hardship. Because the child will try to pressure us in every way to win that battle in his favour, so he is skilled in breaking the rules and provoking us emotionally to test whether we are serious and our commitment to implementing those rules or not.
We take the example of the mother who takes her child with her when she goes to the supermarket to spend the house affairs. The mother must agree with the child before going to the supermarket on only one type of candy that the child chooses to get, and if she chooses other things, she must prove her position and remind her of the agreement. She submits to her crying and emotional movements, then carries her and leaves the place, reminding her of the agreement and the type of candy she chose.
This method may not work from the first, second, or even fifth time, and the child's stubbornness may increase and her nervous behavior may increase, and this is normal. The mother only has to commit to the same behavior every time, and expect the child not to respond in order not to be nervous or confused.. She knows that this happens with all children and all parents, so she should not give in to embarrassment and continue her commitment to the rule no matter what her child does.
Try the following with your 3-year-old:
Make a prior agreement before going to the supermarket.
- If the child adheres. the mother rewards her, praises her, praises her behavior and shows her joy in her.
- If you do not comply, we leave the place with a reminder of the prior agreement.
- Providing healthy alternatives to sweets, and not giving them sweets at home. We only have sweets when we go out for shopping or in rewards.
Make a list of the sweets you want to buy, and choose one type at a time.
Very important tips while dealing with a 3-year-old:
Do not make fun of his words and make him feel that he is not important, you must pay attention to him and listen to him well with interest and attention.
Do not try to put him in a box and control his movements more than necessary, encourage him to play freely, which does not have any rules, it is very important to make your child very launch and happy and run.
Teach him the skill of sharing and how his friends and brothers should play, and also share simple things at home because he is an important person in it. By sharing, he learns the importance of the group.
Whenever his behavior is good, reward him and do not deprive him of the pleasure of achievement, even in simple matters. .
The age of three years is the most appropriate stage in which we teach the child the rules such as eating etiquette, visiting etiquette, respect etiquette, and self-reliance in hygiene.